I never thought about how childish I am but my coworker sent me a link to theartofbeingaman.com and I really got something out of it. Boys these days aren't asked to be a man or to act manly. Movies like 40 Year Old Virgin and Step Brothers show this trend in our society. Many of us are afraid to out down the toys, stay at home, and get cracking on our dreams. Not just men either, women do it too but it seems adulthood is more glamorized for women.
I got a haircut yesterday. Not because I'm trying to fit in but because I'm casting away my childish thoughts about conformity. Fashion, style, and social norms are a very useful tool that I threw away as a young man. I did everything in my power to not fit in with any crowd, even the social outcasts. I wanted people to appreciate me for me and not my haircut or clothes. What I see now is that your physical appearance is simply a way to put someone at ease or to make them feel interested. There's a damned good reason why fashion is a huge and sometimes child abusive industry. It's very hard to get to know someone if you don't fit their ideals. It's not like I want to cater to everyone's needs but in order to better myself I need people to feel good around me. If people feel good that I have a nice haircut, smell nice, and wear decent clothes fine. I want you around and if that's the hoop I've gotta job, no problem.
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